Dealing with anger
Do you feel that your anger is out of your control at times and it becomes devastating to your life? Anger is like a fire which burns all your efforts into ash. Each person experiences anger in different levels, even though given a similar situations. Some people are better at managing their anger than others to prevent a chaos happen. So what are some of the strategies in managing anger?
Anger is a primary emotion experienced by human and animals. It is a natural, adaptive response to threats which allow us to fight and to defend ourselves when we are attacked. Anger is neither good nor bad. A certain amount of anger, therefore, is necessary to our survival.
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You could be angry at a specific person (e.g. a friend) or event (e.g. traffic jam), or your anger could be caused by emotional pains and trauma.
Anger becomes a problem when it is uncontrolled and leads to aggression,
impulsivity, and hostility.
Uncontrolled anger may cause you to:
Below are some common responses when we are angry:
Three approaches we use to deal with anger:
So what can I do about it?
“Control your anger before it controls you”. Increase your self-awareness by focusing on your thoughts and body sensation. Ask yourself these questions:
Change thoughts that fuel your anger:
Improve your communication
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